Before more people misunderstood "KVETCH" as a person name, perhaps I should explain the meaning a little.
Kvetch actaully meant to complain and whine. This blog named "Kvetch Haven" so that I can complain a little, whine a little about life. Of course, this blog will not be solely on constant whinning and complain.
Open-mindedness VS Moral Values
whispered @ Sunday, October 30, 2005 by stardusz
"Hey, I thought you are an open-minded person, what's so wrong with having sex with my ex then?" someone once said this to me.
Well, nothing is wrong with having sex with your ex-partner as long as both of you enjoyed it and in my point of view, both got to be single; no partner at the moment.
I am never against anyone having sex with his/ her ex-partner. But not when this person's ex-partner has a partner currently and/or you yourself have a partner already, then this is where, in my opinion, moral values has a conflict. Open-mind about having sex with someone is no long the key point, moral values is on the screen instead.
Just imagine, how would you feel if your partner has been going back to his/ her ex partner for regular sex activities. How would you feel? Feeling nothing? Don't lie to yourself. I bet there will be a mixture of some reactions I can imagine, either all surged in together or one comes after another or just one of the following feeling comes to you:
1. Anger
2. Betrayal
3. Lost of trust
4. Lost of self-esteem, confidence
5. Ego/ Pride hurt
6. Anguish
7. Hurt emotionally
8. (the list might go on... ...)
Peronally, I won't agree to having sex with my ex-partner when I know that he has a girlfriend already. I just placed myself in her situation and imagine how hurt I would be if I was her. I'll be having sex with my partner only and not with anyone else. To me, having sex with someone who is attached does not shows that you are open-minded person. In contrary, it goes to shows how immature and inconsiderate both parties are. And, yes, bad karma, if you believes in it. (Well, I believe... What goes around, comes around.. I'll be punished in a similar way)
To think of it in a crude way, your ex-partner is actually enjoying the best of both world; enjoying sex and companion from his/her current partner and free sex from you; treating you as a spare tire. You are only wanted when his/ her current partner cannot satisfy his/ her needs, sexual needs. Why allow such an unfair trade? Who is the winner? You are definitely not the chosen one.
This is a democratic society, of course one can still go ahead to do what he/she deem right, something that does not goes against he/her moral values. Moral values varies from person to person but I believe there are some moral values that are the same through out the human race.
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